Congratulations! A wedding is on your horizon! Planning your wedding, however, can be both a hugely exciting and overwhelming experience all at once. Essentially flying blind, the wedding world is tricky waters to navigate, so here are some mistakes you don't want to make as you plan your dream day.
1. MAKING SELECTIONS BEFORE SETTING A BUDGET
Selecting your dress, picking your photographer or choosing your venue all prior to establishing financial parameters is like shopping without checking price tags and strolling up to the check out with your fingers crossed. You are setting your self up for disappointment when you are forced to say no to things either because you've already blown the budget, or, you're having to cut back significantly on things like the honeymoon. The first three monetary hurdles are setting the budget, guest list and venue - in that order. This allows you to make decisions based on these numbers and calculate accordingly.
2. NOT HAVING A WET WEATHER PLAN
As with most weddings in Australia, everyone hopes and plans for an outdoor wedding. However, we do experience rain from time to time and it's important you're prepared to let the rain fall as it may. In the first instance, if there has been considerable rain leading up to your big day, plan accordingly; have cute umbrellas and gumboots so you work with elements. Speak to a marquee company and place a deposit, or choose a venue that has an indoor plan b solution that's easy to move to. Rain on your wedding day isn't just ironic - it's a game-changer.
3. PACKING THEM IN LIKE SARDINES
No matter the vibe, you want your guests to feel comfortable not claustrophobic. Feeling cramped makes food service and dancing really difficult and inhibits the guest experience. Ask your venue how many guests the space can comfortably fit and then reduce that by 10 percent.
4. NOT SUPPLYING ENOUGH INFORMATION
No one likes feeling confused or overwhelmed, and your guests don't know anywhere near as much as you do. It's important to provide more than enough information, than not enough at all. A great way to overcome this is to have a wedding website. I've used Zola for my wedding, and it's been fantastic! A popular idea, particularly in the US, this is a great source of information for your guests detailing your story, wedding location, transportation and accommodation, gift registry, timeline and more.
Providing maps for transportation, great idea. Plotting out bathroom breaks and a second-by-second schedule for your coordinator, waitstaff, and DJ? Not so much. Many brides and grooms forget they are working with seasoned professionals who can forecast, down to the nano-second, how the party should flow. Be clear on what you want, but also trust and allow your team to have creative licence to produce a day better than you'd dreamed.
6. MAKING IT AN OPEN MIC NIGHT
Heartfelt or humorous speeches can be the highlight of the reception, but so too can endless speeches lead to numbing bordem. Most speakers will only intend to get up there for a short moment, but once a little dutch courage kicks in, they tend to waffle. Really strive to limit how many people speak and be specific on how long you wish them to go for. Keep control of your event by limiting the toasts to the MC, maid of honor, and best man, with possible addition of father of the bride/mother of the bride, and having a quick chat with your DJ or band leader to avoid any surprises. Enforce the Oscar's music if you have to, there's dancing to be done!